S.A.V.E. Yourself
The irony of me having the urge to write a mental health post during “June Gloom”…
Hello Beautiful people!
I miss this! Did you miss me? If not, it’s ok! Lol
Exactly 6 months into the year and I’m sure we can all agree that we in fact can’t believe we’re already 6 months into the year. It has been very eventful. So many friends and family have hit major milestones: babies, degrees, homes, new music. However, the principle of polarity states that everything is dual and everything has its opposite.
Maybe you weren’t one of those people who celebrated a happy transition, but instead encountered a major loss or setback that has you asking what else can go wrong instead of how good can it get. BEEN THERE! However, I’m curious to know how many of these challenges you find yourself experiencing more than once in a lifetime. How many of these things do you feel like you’re responsible for? How many of these things happen because YOU are in your own way?
A common misconception of therapists is that people think our intention is to “fix” them. I make it clear to every client that they are in fact the experts on their lives, and I am just here to help them make things make sense. We talk, we laugh, they cry, I challenge them, they challenge me; but ultimately we collaborate on how to achieve the goals that they came to their initial session asking for help with. I love what I do and I can attest that I do it with love. I also understand how intimidating it can be to initiate a meeting with a complete stranger, telling them your most vulnerable moments, with only hopes that the judgement you’re expecting doesn’t turn you to stone. I get it!
I believe in therapy so much that I am always thinking of more welcoming ways to bring people closer to the mental health help I personally think everyone deserves. So! I came up with the S.A.V.E. Model that you can use if you’re not yet ready to talk to somebody like me but have had enough of the self sabotaging loop you’re constantly finding yourself in.
The “SAVE” Model: A Framework for Personal Growth & Emotional Wellness
✨ S — Self-Awareness
Take an honest look within. Start by identifying the behaviors, relationships, or situations that are feeding your stress or inner conflict. Awareness is the first step toward change.
✨ A — Accountability
Own your part. Reflect on your role in what you’re experiencing. What actions or patterns need to stop? What new ones can you implement that will help shift things to bring peace and progress?
✨ V — Vulnerability
Speak your truth! Allow yourself to be open. Share your emotions, thoughts, and beliefs in real time. Be honest about how you feel, how it’s affecting you, and what support you need. Let others in. Vulnerability connects you to your community. Healing begins when we’re honest, especially with ourselves.
✨ E — Evolution
Now it’s time to grow. Change is possible. Put those new insights, behaviors, and boundaries into practice. Let go of old habits you’ve outgrown, lean into growth, and step into the best version of yourself you’ve worked so hard to reach.
The only way to finish something is to start it first. Sometimes life feels chaotic; full of stress, conflict, and emotional weight. Utilize the “SAVE” Model as a tool to help you reset, reflect, and grow. No matter what and no matter who, know that I am always and forever rooting for you, whoever you are. Always remember, when no one is there to save you, you have the ability to SAVE YOURSELF.
Happy Healing 🫶🏽
